try milking everything down to longer counts in the music. i.e. either use super super slow music and count out moves, so you train your body to go uber slow, and use the entire 8 count for the move, or else you can take twice as many counts to do a move. For example, for an undulation up to down in your torso, you can do it to mid tempo music and take 8 counts, or you can pick some juicy uber-slow song and still do 8 counts, it will just even slower....

take breaths. even on stage. pauses are good. it feels scarey to be up there something without 'dancing' and moving to every count, but i think it actually creates both dramatic tension and texture to dancing, , and also ease for the audience members to watch, if you're at ease up there and feel comfortable NOT dancing every beat. For some reason, that's scarey, but it's also exhilerating.. .

And i really really find that doing a yoga practice, and a lot of core warm up helps me be able to go inside more, access deep places within, slow/calm down movements, and helps find and articulate all the muscles needed in core, etc. to be able to control slow slow snake like dancing..

perhaps a combo of all of the above??
thanks for posting! this is reminding me to sllllllllllooooooowwwwwww everything down
xo
deb